Bhavesh's Tryst

You may be draining your emotional centre without even realising it. Here's a look at an internal conservation plan

Stress, a poor diet, or a hormone imbalance, are known factors that play havoc with your mood. But there are subtle contributors that can cause a deeper type of tiredness. It's call emotional fatigue. Here are actions that you need to consciously avoid.

Avoiding the voice within
It's unfortunate that the world at large trains us to listen to our logical minds, not our intuitive hearts. We say unfortunate because it is the heart that tells you which direction to go in order to live your life to its full potential. So, don't quieten that voice within you. Listen to it, and make an effort to gauge what it is trying to tell you.

Functioning in a fear mode
Clinging to people or situations because you have a fear of being alone, or feeling left out, is stressful. It causes us to accept relationships with people who do not lift us up to a higher place. Being alone can sometimes be quite meaningful. You learn to intentionally fill that space with things that truly matter and people that revitalise you.

Zero clarity
Without clarity, life is draining. Period.Situations may be stressful, but if you're not sure why, then you can't change them.Without clarity on what you need and what you stand for, it's easy to fall into a pattern where you feel pushed, pulled back and stuck. When you figure out the truth, it's easier to make right choices.

Being non-confrontational
Trying to always maintain harmony is a great quality to have, but if this means you are pushing your feelings within and internalising them, what you are doing is storing all the negative energy and emotions such as fear, anger within you. Always speak up.

You refuse to take action
Do you often find yourself play out possible negative outcomes in your mind until you feel awful about it? This is a way to feel powerless. What you are doing is using a great deal of energy, but not actually moving forward emotionally or physically. To break out of that pattern, take action. Often we are scared that we won't make the right decision, so we do nothing. Snap out of that mode. Stop ruminating, take action.

Haven't resolved old issues
Often we judge our own pain and believe we are not entitled to it, because the event occurred a long time ago, or it wasn't that bad compared to what's happened to other people. That is a wrong thing to do. Pain doesn't work like that. You can't talk yourself out of it. Pain resides on a deeper level, and it must be treated with compassion in order to heal. For starters, you can clear the emotional space by feeling gratitude for what happened and looking at the positives.

You have not set boundaries
Boundaries are the walls, which protect our energy. When you don't define them, other people do that for you. As a result, things continually happen to us that feel draining. Tell people what you don't like and what you actually want, instead.

posted by Bhavesh Jhaveri  # 12:46 PM