Bhavesh's Tryst

Little poems & notes created to break the mudane

Saturday, January 26, 2013


Health Tip of the week - Right Way to eat fruits

Monday, January 21, 2013


Short Breathing Techniques for relaxation from stress

Try "minis." Minis are shorter versions of the relaxation response technique that you can use quickly whenever you feel tension beginning to grip you. Taking the following actions will help to reduce stress if you don't have a lot of time:

  • Take a deep breath and hold it for several seconds. Then let your breath out very slowly while repeating your focus word.
  • Put your right hand just under your navel. Focus on breathing down to your navel. As you breathe in the first time, say the number ten. Breathe out. Then breathe in and say the number nine. Breathe out. Continue until you reach zero.
  • Breathe in through your nose and breathe out through your mouth ten times. Notice how cool the air feels when you inhale and how warm it is when you exhale.
  • Imagine air as a cloud. As you breathe, envision that the air comes to you as a cloud, filling you and then leaving you

Friday, January 18, 2013


Relax and breathe: the relaxation response

Relax and breathe: the relaxation response

The relaxation response is a structured approach to using breathing and relaxation to counter the negative affects of stress. It is a deliberate and controlled technique that is opposite to the body's natural fight-or-flight stress response in the face of apparent danger or a perceived threatening situation. While the body's fight-or-flight mode causes an increase in the heart rate and breathing, the relaxation response reverses these bodily states.

When you find yourself feeling unnecessary stress, apply this simple technique to counteract the negative effects of stress on your body. To prepare, you will need:

  • A quiet environment. Find a quiet, calm place; a private room; or a space with no distractions.
  • A mental device. Choose a constant stimulus of a single-syllable sound or word, such as the word, "one." Repeat that sound silently or softly over and over again. Focus solely on that sound.
  • A passive attitude. Disregard all distracting thoughts. Simply let yourself be completely passive.
  • A comfortable position. Sit in a comfortable chair, preferably with neck and head support. Loosen all tight-fitting clothes. Prop your feet up, if possible.

To induce the relaxation response:

  1. Sit in a comfortable position.
  2. Close your eyes.
  3. Deeply relax your muscles, starting with your toes and moving up to your face and head.
  4. Breathe through your nose. As you breathe out, say the sound or word you have chosen silently or softly to yourself. Breathe in. Breathe out and say the word again. Breathe in.
  5. Keep repeating the breathing in and out and the sound for 20 minutes. Open your eyes to check the time, but do not use an alarm or other sharp noise.
  6. When you finish, sit quietly for several minutes, at first with your eyes closed and then with your eyes open.

After using this technique, most people feel calm and relaxed, but perhaps the most important benefit is an immediate lowering of blood pressure. And the interruption of stressful and worried thoughts can enable you to focus more clearly on the real situation

Saturday, January 12, 2013


Kite Festival

The kites go up, the kites go down,

In and around, all over the town

The children run and jump and play,

Because they love a windy day.

The fascination and the festivities associated with the kite flying cuts across age groups. Although, As kite enthusiasts pitch themselves at the ground, waves of flying kites overwhelm an otherwise deep blue sky. On January 14, watch the sky change colors... like a rainbow in a glittering sun after the rain and bask in the glory of Uttarayan, when the skies of our Surat City give way to colorful kites.

“You can't fly a kite unless you go against the wind and have a weight to keep it from turning a somersault. The same with we all. No one will succeed unless he is ready to face and overcome difficulties and is prepared to assume responsibilities.”


Systematic approach to stop worry

A systematic approach

Each step in the Evaluate-Plan-Remediate approach functions as a stage that brings you closer to the mountain top.


You already have the means to change the pattern of escalating worry by using the power of your mind. The systematic Evaluate-Plan-Remediate approach allows you to examine the process of worry and break it down into smaller, more manageable problem-units that can be solved or resolved.

For example, suppose you receive a team e-mail from your supervisor about the agenda for an upcoming budget review meeting. In the past, you've always been asked to present the target revenues for your department, but you have yet to be asked this year. You feel a twist in your stomach, a sign that worry is creeping in. Your thoughts begin to speed up: "Why haven't I been asked? Did someone else get the assignment? Did I do a poor job last time? I must be an idiot! Am I being demoted or eased out?" Using the Evaluate-Plan-Remediate worry-intervention method, you can stop the worry as soon as you start to feel it taking over.

  1. Evaluate: "Yes, I haven't yet been asked to present the projected revenues at the budget review meeting. That's all I know right now."
  2. Plan: "I need to get information. I should contact my supervisor and ask her directly if she expects me to present this part of the budget."
  3. Remediate: "I'll call my supervisor and make an appointment to see her in person."

This simple sequence can replace that sense of panic with an immediate evaluation of the situation and a plan for necessary action. If you can make this process a habit every time you feel that twist in your stomach or twinge in your head, you'll turn your worry into action.


Toxic worry is a misreading of reality.

–Edward M. Hallowell, M.D.

The key to evaluating the cause of the worry is to confront it. Don't ignore those little signals your body is giving you. They won't go away until you face what causes them.

1. Name the problem. Just giving a name to a problem can help reduce stress because by identifying the specific problem, you've already eliminated all other possibilities. Naming makes things more manageable.


Discover the stress-creating pattern that describes your situation.

For example, do you:

  • Take on too many responsibilities?
  • Find it difficult to balance work-life issues?
  • Work in the wrong job?
  • Have problems with colleagues or supervisors?
  • Procrastinate when a deadline looms?

2. Think constructively about the problem. This may seem like a difficult step, but all it takes is an honest examination of your own automatic worry process. It requires that you step back and watch yourself, in order to identify how your mind leaps from the bad news or perceived danger that triggers the worry to the "awfulizing" of the initial event. Take these steps, one by one:

  • Examine your automatic thoughts. Monitor your automatic thoughts. What words pop into your mind? Write the words down and look at them more objectively. Often you can see how exaggerated they are. For example, do you use negative descriptors (idiot, stupid) against yourself?
  • Correct errors in logic. Next, examine your automatic thoughts for errors in logic. For example, why would your supervisor include you in the e-mail message about the budget meetings unless you had a role in that meeting? Your hasty assumption that you were being excluded is an error in logic.
  • Develop alternative hypotheses. Even though you may leap to the worst-case scenario, there may be other hypotheses that could explain the situation. Your supervisor may have assumed that you were working on the revenue report, or she may have a different task in mind for you.
  • Revise your fundamental assumptions about yourself and your work. Instead of calling yourself stupid and assuming that the disaster will certainly occur, start becoming your own best supporter. This may prove to be a difficult step to take because these fundamental assumptions can reflect ancient and deep-seated ways of looking at yourself and your world. However, if these assumptions are untrue and block constructive thoughts, then they need to be replaced with healthier and more honest ones. The important thing is to discard the distortions that prevent you from achieving rational and productive solutions.
  • Never worry alone. Invite a friend to help as a listening partner. Sharing your worries with the right person can make you feel better by unloading the weight of worry. Just talking out loud about your concerns helps to sort them out and to clarify where your concerns may be valid and where you may be distorting the problem. The listener, at this point, needs simply to listen, rather than trying to solve your problems. Your goal here is to understand your own worry process and gain the power to find your own solutions.


Planning ahead can take time and seem to be a burden, but the value of planning is a more than adequate return on your time investment. Planning can intercept the toxic worry and replace it with effective action. Here are some steps you can take in advance:

Get the facts. Wise worry confronts real problems. Toxic worry exaggerates and misrepresents reality. Brooding about the "what-if" possibilities passively burns up your energy. So get active! Find out what the truth of the matter is. Go to the sources of information, and don't rely on hearsay, gossip, or your own vivid imagination.

Structure your life. Much worry results from unstructured living and thinking habits. A cluttered desk with files scattered about means wasted time finding the material you need and the risk of losing important information. In the same way, a mind cluttered with "what-if" possibilities can hide the "that-is" reality. Worried people typically spend more time and energy worrying than they do accomplishing productive tasks.

Structuring your life is being kind and considerate to yourself—organizing your desk helps you find things. And structuring your life reduces your risk of losing vital files, information, keys—as well as preventing you from losing perspective. Use structure as an anti-anxiety agent: lists, reminders, schedules, rules, and budgets are all methods of structuring your life for your own benefit.

Here are some ways to structure your space:

  • Take the time to organize your desk.
  • Use colored file folders with clear labels.
  • Put your keys in the same spot every day.
  • Organize your computer desktop and mailbox.

Here are some ways to structure your time:

  • Set goals. Decide what you want or need to accomplish in the coming week.
  • Prioritize your goals. Break them down into small, manageable activities.
  • Use a date book to avoid missing appointments and to stay on target.
  • Be fair to yourself: make your plan for the week reasonable.
  • Match important activities to the times of your high energy peaks—the times of the day when you feel most alert and vigorous.
  • Save the simple, repetitive tasks for your low-energy periods.
  • Avoid getting involved in activities that don't match your goals.
  • Be sure to take breaks to restore energy—stand up and stretch, take a short walk, or chat briefly with a colleague.

The act of structuring can itself be difficult. If you find the idea of organizing a cause for new worry, then ask a friend or colleague—someone whose desk is neat and who is never late to a meeting—to give you a hand. Ask for help from more than one person—you may discover ideas and ways to structure your life that are actually easy and fun!


The next step is to find a remedy for toxic worry. Reason, planning, and action are powerful antidotes to the paralysis of stress and worry.

  • Take direct action. If you've evaluated the problem and planned what you can do about it, then go ahead, take the plunge and just do it! Make the phone call, change your behavior, clean up that desk, connect with a friend, or confront that difficult colleague. Taking action is empowering. Your feeling of vulnerability and your toxic worry will fade.
  • Let it go. Why let go? No matter how much you may want to effect a change, there are some problems that can't be solved by any action on your part. You just have to wait and see how things turn out. Worrying about the matter won't help. For example, if your supervisor suddenly announces a major reorganization, you can't do anything about it until the event happens and you have more information about how it will affect you. You just have to sit tight and wait. Or perhaps you're up for a big promotion, but you won't find out about the decision for a month. You will be better off in every way—physically, emotionally, and mentally—if you can let the worry go until later.

What does letting go mean? Letting go means giving up your sense of control, and this can be difficult to do. Often people feel that if they worry enough, they might affect the outcome. But in those cases and times when control doesn't help and worry only hurts, it's worth the effort to give up both worry and control.

How can you let worry go? Different people have different ways. Some find that meditation helps. Some listen to music or sing a song. Try putting your worry in the palm of your hand and blowing it away. Close your eyes and imagine the worry putting on its coat and hat and walking slowly out of the room. The important thing for you is to say good-bye to useless worry


Steps for quick stress reduction

Steps for quick stress reduction

  1. Stop.
  2. Breathe.
  3. Reflect.

After interfering with the automatic stress response, you should now be able to focus on the real problem without the distractions of exaggerated worries. Reflect on the causes of your worry and consider these questions:

    • Why do I leap to negative conclusions?
    • Am I exaggerating the threat?
    • What is the emotional "hook" that sets my stress reaction going? For example, your emotional "hook" might be that you feel unappreciated for what you do and are overburdened as well. Your supervisor should know how much work you have and shouldn't ask you to do more. The hooks are your feelings about the conditions, not the realities.
    • What is the specific problem in this case? By reflecting, you can put aside the feelings and examine the immediate problem. In this case, you have several projects to perform within a limited time frame.
  1. Choose.

The next step is to choose how to deal with the situation. Consider each available option, and then choose the one that best fulfills your goals. Ask yourself:

    • What is my real goal here?
    • What is the best solution to the problem?
    • Do I have the skills and tools to achieve the best solution?
    • What can I possibly do right now? Later today? Tomorrow?

In a work overload situation, you might choose to do one of the following:

    • Prioritize the projects, and work on the most urgent one first.
    • Let your supervisor know that you won't be able to finish the report until the next day.
    • Plan to work during your lunch break to finish the work on time.
    • Ask a colleague to help you with one or two of the tasks.

Once you've made your decision, then you can then act on it.


A Thought by Albert Einstein


"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.”
- Albert Einstein 



“Habit is the intersection of knowledge (what to do), skill (how to do), and desire (want to do)”


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